Bad Book Reviews Are One Thing. Malicious Ones are Another. #standupforyourself
by Ellen DuBois on 12/07/18
This is what I wrote today in response to a pretty malicious review about my first book Jackie's Heart
, (2003, republished in 2012). I know. What took you so long, Ellen?
Or, you may be wondering, Why'd you even bother?
I understand both perspectives. I mean, the review was posted in 2012.
Here's what I (finally) posted on Amazon in response to the review:
"While I understand you didn't like my book, (that's putting it mildly), was it really necessary to advise people to: 'Save your self and your time and run from this thing called a book'? While I certainly understand that not all books are enjoyed by everyone, I find being inappropriately mean to be highly unnecessary. It's taken me years to post something about your review, (of my very first book), but I finally decided to say something. It's not because I can't handle a bad review, but a malicious one is simply not tolerable."
Back in 2003 when I wrote and published Jackie's Heart, I was under a 7 year contract with Publish America. (Ouch!) Remember, this was back in 2003. A couple of years after my contract ended, I moved my book to Createspace as an ebook.
I digress. Back then, it felt great to finish
my book. To take something from start to completion was, (and still is), a big deal. Additionally, I learned a few things, (emphasis on the word few), about the (then) very new world of online publishing. I'm still learning as that world continues to evolve.
Being an author, I had to develop a thick skin. Almost my entire life, whether through writing, singing, playing the piano, teaching piano or even making jewelry, I've put myself "out there" and subsequently, open for critisism. It's all part of it- part of me.
However, the one review that got under my skin and lived there for years, has been responded to...by me.
I realized that the one star review was not simply a "bad review" but a malicious one. I can handle bad reviews. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. But when a review gets nasty and malicious, I believe the line has been crossed.
I don't think my response is going to make a difference to anyone but me, and that's okay. I feel free, empowered even, because I opened my mouth and responded. Finally the words are off my chest! I can LET IT GO.
I still agree that this person had every right to dislike my book and post a review saying so. To me, he or she crossed the line between writing a bad review and a malicious one, i.e. Zero Star, Yuck!!!, Run!, Save yourself and your time and run from this thing called a book. (I think you get the picture.)
I've always stood up for people who have experienced an injustice.
That includes me.
Have a blessed day and thanks for visiting!
Hi. My name is Ellen DuBois. I'm the author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery and Jackie's Heart. Since 2006 I've been hosting MiscarriageHelp.com, a support site for women and their families who have miscarried.
I'm published with Blue Mountain Arts, and am a contributing author to several books including: Soul Matters for Teens, Sisters, (a Blue Mountain Arts gift book), Conquering Panic and Anxiety Disorders- Success Stories, Strategies and other Good News, Romancing the Soul, More God Allows U-Turns.
I'm also known as "Miss Ellen"- a piano teacher to students from 5 to tween and beyond. Music is another passion of mine and I'm blessed to share the gift of music. I'm also a shudder bug like my mother was. I love taking pictures.
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