Writing To Help Others Who Miscarried #PoweredByIndieby Ellen DuBois on 10/04/16
October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. The fifteenth of October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day. It's such an important month for anyone who has miscarried, lost a baby to stillbirth or in any other way. We honor our babies and unite with one another. Through our pain we share a connection and through our connection we find strength.
Many years ago I miscarried. It was a during a time when the Internet wasn't available, (the early 90's). Subsequently, the support offered via the Internet hadn't begun. It was a very dark, isolating, sad time for me, but somehow I got through it. My faith carried me along with the love of family and friends.
Years later, the Internet was opening doors that nobody dreamt of. People were finding support in groups, chat rooms and emails. As those facets of the Internet grew, the advent of ebooks came to be. As with anything, it took a bit of time for the concept of ebooks to catch on.
In 2006, I felt a need to write about my miscarriage. Having grown accustomed to the Internet, I could see how much connecting with others, even if they lived across the country, or world, was helping people heal.
One early, quiet morning, while at the kitchen table, I knew without a doubt I had to write about my experiences with miscarriage. Subsequently, a whole new chapter of my life began.
At first, I Never Held You was a small ebook published by a relatively unknown but traditional publisher. It was the beginning of getting my message of hope and healing in front of those who needed it. At the same time, the birth of my support site, MiscarriageHelp.com occurred. However, after three years of having my book and support site "out there", the publisher I was with had to make some cuts. Sadly, nonfiction books was one of them. I was one of them.
After nearly three years of having my book available and growing my support site, the plug was pulled. I knew I had to get my book back where it belonged- in front of those who needed it. I already knew the larger, traditional publishers weren't interested in a book about miscarriage, healing and recovery. I was told there wasn't a market for "that kind" of book. I had the rejection letters to prove it.
However, the opinions of those traditional publishers didn't ring true with me. I knew the over one-million women a year who experienced miscarriage in the United States alone needed help, reassurance and validation. My heart told me women around the world needed support, and I had the experience to back me. I'd been running my support site and answering emails for nearly three years and my book, (now longer with contributions from a grief counselor and several women who miscarried), was selling.
Women who miscarried needed support! I wasn't going to quit just because of a bump in the road.
Without a publisher, I found myself debating whether to go the traditional, time consuming route of sending out query letters to traditional publishers, (again), or to try this "new thing" called self publishing, or indie publishing as it became more commonly referred to.
At that juncture, Amazon's CreateSpace was newly launched and I just happened to find it. When comparing the options for indie publishing, CreateSpace seemed the best match for me. I thought about it, prayed about it and knew in my heart the answer was to forgo the letters to countless traditional publishers. What the world of indie publishing offered me was a signficantly faster, more direct route to getting my book back in front of those who needed it. CreateSpace was the answer.
I didn't want to waste valuable time with publishers who discounted the feelings of women who were hurting after miscarriage.
They meant too much to me and still do.
When I made the decision to get my book published through CreateSpace, which is owned by Amazon, I knew I did the right thing. From the moment I began working with them, I felt encouraged, excited and hopeful. From the layout of my book to the new cover design, I worked with a team who cared about my book and about me. My vision for what I wanted the book cover to look like came to life through a group very talented, dedicated people.
That was back in 2009. When I Never Held You was republished in both electronic and paperback formats, I proudly entered the ranks of being an indie author. After only a few months of my book being off the virtual and brick and mortar shelves, it was back on them and stronger than before. So was my website. While CreateSpace worked on my book, I worked just as diligently to get miscarriagehelp.com, (which was built by my prior publisher), back online. I couldn't bear the thought of not being there for anyone who needed a place to share their feelings about life after miscarriage. They needed to be heard, to vent, to connect.
It all came together about seven years ago, when my book was released by CreateSpace and my companion website was back online. I've been propelled by wanting to help build a bridge of support for anyone who has lived through miscarriage and struggled through the pain and isolation left in its path. My book has continued to be a tool in my outreach and I'm proud to be an indie author. I'm grateful to be #PoweredByIndie. Being published by CreateSpace has given me a much larger platform to stand upon - and it's withstood the test of time.
I have no regrets and haven't looked back. I'm proud to be in the company of such wonderful indie authors.
When all is said and done, there was and still is a market for books about miscarriage. Just as women who have miscarried should not have their feelings dismissed, neither should the authors of books that serve to help them.
(As a matter of fact, I'm working on another book and I plan on publishing it through CreateSpace.)
Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. My name is Ellen DuBois, host of this site, miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.
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Love & comfort to you, Ellen
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