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Ellen DuBois, Author of I Never Held You, a book about miscarriage, healing and recovery and Host of MiscarriageHelp.com













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Hi everyone! Thanks for stopping by my humble abode on the web. My name is Ellen DuBois, Author of I Never Held You, a book about miscarriage, healing and recovery and Host of MiscarriageHelp.com

Ellen M. DuBois Author Blog

Self Published, Traditional Publisher

by Ellen DuBois on 03/14/12

Hello Everyone,

I decided to create a blog for this site. Seemed to make sense and hopefully I can offer some form of inspiration or a useful idea or two to writers who are looking to draw from a fellow writer's experiences.

Live and learn.

I think I'll start this blog off talking about moving from a traditional publisher to self publisher. I made this move for one book: I Never Held You- a book about miscarriage, healing and recovery.

Back in 2006, my book was published traditionally through a small but reputable publisher. It did fairly well for three years, during which time I also ran a support site called MiscarriageHelp.com. I still run the site.

Fast forward to 2009. The economy was what is was and my publisher made the decision to cut nonfiction from their line of books. I was left scrambling and wanted my book back 'out there' in a hurry. My position on Amazon.com was good and I didn't want to lose it. My blog was also fed directly to my author page on Amazon, and God forbid I lost that!

On top of it all, I had to get MiscarriageHelp.com rebuilt and hosted by another company so I could continue offering a place of support for those who had lived through the pain of miscarriage.

I was very confused and overwhelmed, to say the least. But, I had to keep my head on straight and focus on the tasks at hand: getting my book republished and my website rebuilt. However, I didn't want to make any decisions in haste. Why do more harm than good?

My book: The options were to submit my manuscript to traditional publishing houses, (again), and go through the long, nail-biting waiting process and/or to investigate my self publishing options. I was never one for the self publishing,  but then I came across Createspace.

Who is Createspace?

"CreateSpace, a member of the Amazon group of companies, provides innovative tools and services to help authors, filmmakers and musicians publish and distribute their creative content to millions of potential customers. Our manufacture on-demand technology makes it easy and economical for content creators to make their books, films, and music available across a variety of retail and wholesale channels, including Amazon.com and CreateSpace.com, without an upfront investment in inventory.

The sizable and rapidly expanding range of books, DVDs and CDs available through the CreateSpace platform - now in excess of 2 million titles - exemplifies how quickly on-demand production and distribution are being adopted!"

At the time, I knew very little about them, but my research proved positive. Additionally, I went with my gut. I picked up the phone and talked to some fabulous people who were helpful, upbeat and genuine.

After discussing the various packages with Createspace, I decided to pay for a new cover design and layout of my book. I worked one on one with a team of dedicated professionals who were top-notch. I had solid ideas for what I wanted in a cover and was presented with two designs to choose from based on what I described. One was right on with my ideas. The other was an excellent design based on their creative department's vision. I loved both covers, but the one that spoke to me was what I envisioned, so I went with it and haven't looked back.





 

My book sales are better than they ever were with my former pubisher. With the advent of Kindle's popularity, my electronic sales often outweigh my paperback sales. Both, and I need to stress this, far exceed book sales prior to my move to Createspace. My author page at Amazon remained in tact. Within a few months my book was ready and 'out there' again. My blog continued to feed directly to my author page, (after rebuilding it using a webhosting company I was already very familiar with, Homestead.com).



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I still hold all rights to my book, but to be honest, I don't plan on making any moves from Createspace. I know it's the best decision I've ever made concerning the success and reach of I Never Held You. I know it because numbers don't lie.

My website: As for Homestead.com, I've been with them for over ten years, and when it came to rebuilding MiscarriageHelp.com, they were the company for me. Over the years, I've learned enough about HTML to get by, but with Homestead, you don't need to know HTML. It's an extremely professional, user-friendly web hosting company with excellent customer service. Think, dream, picture your site and build it. Literally. I was able to create MiscarriageHelp.com the way I wanted it to be, with full control over my site design, administration and more. Note: I think a website should accompany your book. It's an excellent way to reach your readers, and in my case, an invaluable tool, offering support to those who need it. Learn How to Build a Professional Website in Minutes. By the Makers of Quickbooks.

I hope you've found something helpful in this post. There are many, many options for you, the writer who wants to get published. Do your homework. Try not to make rash decisions and in the end, I believe you'll find what's right for you. What I've shared worked for me, and I'm so grateful it did.

Wishing you the very best in your writing and more,

Ellen

 



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A little about me...

Hello. I'm Ellen M. DuBois, author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery (Volume 1) and Host of MiscarriageHelp.com, the companion support site to my book. Having experienced a miscarriage myself, I know first-hand the pain, isolation and often dismissive attitudes which accompany miscarriage. I am here to do my part in bringing miscarriage support and awareness to light.

I remember going into bookstores searching for something to assure me I wasn't alone in my struggle. Nothing was available back then. Every time I searched through a maze of books, I'd find ones about having a baby- not losing one. Especially not to miscarriage. There were some books on losing a child already born to this earth. But, what about those of us who never got to see or hold our babies?

Hence, I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery (Volume 1) was born. It was born out of a need deep within myself to reach out to others. I didn't want any woman to feel as alone and unsure of herself after miscarriage as I did. In the process of writing my book, I helped myself. By sharing my story, I literally began to heal myself more and more- even eleven after my miscarriage. You'd think the healing would have been over. It wasn't. It's a process, and it's still underway.

I believe we all have a path in this life, and miscarriage was part of mine. Had I not lived through the pain, I'd have nothing to offer in terms of empathy. Would I want to live through it again? No way. However, when looking at my life, I clearly see how adversity and pain were transmuted into strength and support. I am grateful. I am grateful for the opportunity to use the world-wide platform called the Internet to feed my passion for reaching out to women and their families who have lost babies to miscarriage. I am grateful for providing a place of comfort, bonding and support through my website. I am grateful to have had my book published by a publisher who not only believed in me, but in my message of hope, healing and a quality life after miscarriage. A changed life, scars and all, but life with joy just the same. Joy is something you feel has been stomped out like the embers of a fire after miscarriage. You wonder if it'll ever return. I know I wondered...and waited...and cried.

Those tears left room for healing and joy to fill my life again. Although, I will always have a special place reserved in my heart for my son, Alex. Without him and his brief but powerful stay with me, I wouldn't be here right now talking to you about my path towards healing and recovery after miscarriage. He gave me this gift, and I will not ignore his voice from Heaven as he speaks to my soul, "I love you. Please take what you've learned and use it to help others." I say back to my precious son, "I love you, too. Until we meet again on the other side, where I will findally get to hold you."

A bit about me: I was born in a small town in Massachusetts. The seventies and eighties were my 'growing up' time, although I've found it to be a never-ending process. I love music, was the lead singer in a wedding band for three years and now teach beginner piano to thirty-plus students. They range in age from five to seventeen and are all lights in my life. I've had two cards published with Blue Mountain Arts and feel incredibly blessed. I waited a long time for it to happen, and when it did I was walking on air!

I still reside in another small town in Massachusetts with my significant other, (I won't say his name because he's the private type :), and I can't forget to mention my wonderful, steadfast buddy, Baron the "tweenie" Dachshund who brings a smile to my face every, single day.

I'm the middle child of three girls, and you know what they say about us middle children. I don't know if it's all true, but some of it certainly applies to me! My parents are fabulous people, both musicians and music teachers who have touched and inspired many through their gifts. God has truly blessed me with a loving, fun, somewhat 'quirky' family. Hey, I wouldn't fit in anywhere else!

I am also the author of Jackie's Heart , (my first published book), fiction, and A-Z Affirmations: Change Your Thinking Change Your Life , a pocket sized book you can carry with you for a daily dose of inspiration.

I am currently working on several writing projects, keeping up with my miscarriage support blog daily, and constantly learning and growing as I traverse the path through this thing called life.

Many Blessings to all of you, and to those who have miscarried, I am deeply sorry for your loss.

Ellen



I Never Held You

Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery

By Ellen M. DuBois, Dr. Linda R. Backman Ed.D

I Never Held You speaks to the heart of women, their families and friends who have either lived through the pain & grief after miscarriage, or who want to better support someone who has. Author Ellen M. DuBois shares her own painful journey after miscarriage taking you from her darkest moments of grief, despair, isolation, anxiety, fear and depression to the steps she took towards healing and recovery. Her suggestions prove to be helpful in balancing the emotional peaks and valleys after suffering such a heartbreaking loss. I Never Held You validates your grief after losing a baby to miscarriage, and assures you that you're not alone in your struggle. With the help of contributing author Dr. Linda Backman, Ed.D., licensed grief counselor, psychologist and author, you'll come to better understand grief- and why it's so important to allow yourself the time necessary to heal. If you're looking for help and support after miscarriage, or want to help someone how has miscarried, this is the book for you. Companion website: MiscarriageHelp.com
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    Ellen's books and greeting cards:
    Published: I Never Held You-DLSIJ Press, an ebook about Ms. DuBois experiences with miscarriage, grief and recovery. 2000 Published: I Never Held You-DLSIJ press, 2006-2009
    Published: More God Allows U-Turns, Barbour Publishing/Promise Press, The Angel In The Dumpster, 2001
    Published: Conquering Panic and Anxiety Disorders, Success Stories, Strategies and other Good News, Hunterhouse Publishing, With commentaries by Paul Foxman, PH.D., Winning My Battle With Anxiety 2002
    Published: Jackie's Heart-PublishAmerica, "One woman's experiences in love, adversity and second chances...combining enough criminal activity to build and hold the reader's interest." 2003
    Published: Sisters, SPS Studios, Inc., the publisher of Blue Mountain Arts, to be released in, a book of poetry honoring sisters 2004
    Published: I Never Held You Volume 1, Create Space Publishing, a book about miscarriage, grief, healing and recovery, 2009 (Also available in Kindle.)




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    If you need to be reminded of this or just want some laughter, kindness and a bit of provoking for your thoughts, you can find Robin on Robin Rice's Be Who You Are on Facebook, and on her website Be Who You Are Productions.

    I encourage you to join Facebook if you haven't and get to know Robin and the awesome group of people she's been instrumental in gathering together in one 'cyber place'!



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