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by Ellen DuBois on 09/09/17



Dear God, Hear our prayers for those affected by hurricanes, wildfires, earthquakes- all natural disasters. God bless all people and animals who have been hurt, displaced, are afraid and who have lost so much. May the angels watch over and keep safe all beings who are in the path of these natural disasters. Please protect those who are aiding in rescue and clean up efforts. Help us join together as one to assist all who are in need to the best of our ability. Amen.
Ellen M. DuBois


Ellen DuBois: I'm the author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery and Host of MiscarriageHelp.com. I've also been published with Blue Mountain Arts, and am a contributing author to several books including: Soul Matters for Teens, Sisters, (Blue Mountain Arts gift book), Conquering Panic and Anxiety Disorders- Success Stories, Strategies and other Good News, Romancing the Soul, More God Allows U-Turns. Additionally, I'm also known as "Miss Ellen"- a piano teacher to students from 5 to tween and beyond-
I love it!


I Survived Childhood Without a Cell Phone (and liked it!)

by Ellen DuBois on 08/03/17



I am so glad I was born at a time when technology didn't rule my life. I played outside when the weather was good, and used my imagination inside when the weather was bad. Yes, I watched TV and there were some pretty good shows on. But, I also used my God-given imagination and with the help of books, Barbie dolls, HotWheels, listening to and playing music, I had a great time- a great childhood. If I wanted to see a friend, I walked to their house, knocked on the door and asked if "so and so" could come out and play. If I wanted to play a game, I interacted with my sisters and/or some friends. We talked. We laughed! If I wanted to share something with a girlfriend, we talked face to face either outside, sitting in one of our bedrooms or on the phone, (the one with a cord attached to it and mounted onto a wall). Oh, and when that same phone rang at dinner time, we weren't allowed to talk. It was dinner time and my sisters and I were expected to eat at the table, as a family. We communicated, listened, sometimes shared a laugh and had to clean our plates because poor people were starving and the thought of wasting food was a sin. (Admittedly, I often snuck pieces of what I didn't like under the table for the dog to enjoy.) When I rode my bike for the first time without training wheels, I smashed into a neighbor's car and they didn't sue us. When my mother wanted me to come home for dinner, I heard her voice because she had to yell for me, not call or text me. Oh, and I ran. I respected that call to come in. My girlfriend and I put on shows, dressed up in my mother's clothes, and that was entertainment! I knew the pure joy of playing in the rain in the summer, (provided there wasn't any thunder and lightening), and building snow forts in the winter until my mother called us in because before we turned blue from the cold. I explored the woods behind our house in the spring and marveled at the first flowers blooming in May. Scampering through the colored leaves of fall was a blast. Raking those leaves was not- but we did it. I rode my "Dill Pickle" bike and appreciated it. If I left it on its side at the base of the driveway, I was ordered to go get it and put it where it belonged. I respected what was mine and what belonged to others. I spent my childhood looking up, down, all around, seeing tall trees, the sky, the flowers. I stared at clouds as they changed shaped and caught fireflies at night. Fireworks were an amazing Fourth of July spectacle and getting a new pair of sneakers was a big deal! I even had "school clothes" and "play clothes". Why? Because I played, and played hard. The dirt and grass stains reflected that. The kids in my neighborhood didn't know what a "play date" was. We simply went outside to see who was around. Our neighbor's pool was a welcome oasis in the summertime. Snowball fights, building snowmen and watching snowflakes fall underneath the streetlight captivated me and made me smile. When my friends and sisters were busy, I found ways to entertain myself and grow. I did my homework, practiced the organ and piano, read books, sang to my parent's 45's and 33's in the "playroom" for hours. It was a real treat when I got to stay up past my bedtime when a special was on TV. When our neighbor's got Atari, Pac-Man, Asteroids, Donkey Kong, Centipede, Pole Position and Mario Brothers were like a whole new world to me! I loved playing those games. But, there was a limit and I had to go home eventually. Those games were a treat and so much fun, but they weren't something I did every day. They weren't a way of life. Nope. I grew up playing hop scotch, scatter, tag, hide and seek, riding my bike, exploring the woods, walking to the store, going to the playground, picking up after myself, doing dishes, being with my family and so much more. I saw things some would consider simple, like rainbows, frogs, tadpoles, planes flying overhead, birds and countless other things through the eyes of a child who only knew how to look up and around, instead of constantly down at a tiny screen. And you know what? I'm so, so glad those are my childhood memories. - Ellen DuBois



Ellen DuBois: I'm the author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery and Host of MiscarriageHelp.com. I've also been published with Blue Mountain Arts, and am a contributing author to several books including: Soul Matters for Teens, Sisters, (Blue Mountain Arts gift book), Conquering Panic and Anxiety Disorders- Success Stories, Strategies and other Good News, Romancing the Soul, More God Allows U-Turns. Additionally, I'm also known as "Miss Ellen"- a piano teacher to students from 5 to tween and beyond-
I love it!


Racing Heart. The Beginning.

by Ellen DuBois on 07/29/17

The black Frieghtliner started up in the driveway at 6:54 a.m. Chelle's eyes were still stinging from waking up so early, (she didn't get to sleep until after 1). Dennis, her fiance, wanted to get an early start to the New England Dragway. Racing was his passion and although she wanted him to follow it, it wasn't hers.

He always asked her to go with him and she did for his "maiden voyage". She watched from the hot, metal bleachers and took pictures of him speeding down the quarter mile in his new, black and red COPO Camaro. Chelle wanted to show her support, but after a day of wearing earplugs and baking in the hot, June sun, she knew this wasn't her "thing". She did enjoy taking pictures of him speeding down the track, (she loved her Nikon). She also liked how happy Dennis was, which she hadn't seen in some time. There was something different about his smile, his focus. He was in his element and fully present. Chelle knew whether she was there or not, he'd have a good time.

Dennis asked her to find some stack car haulers with living quarters online. That way, she and their dog Buster could come along and stay comfortable. She found a few that seemed worth looking at, but he was so busy they hadn't gotten one yet.

So, he went racing and she did whatever. Sometimes she took advantage of her time and relaxed, watching Netflix with Buster. Other times she wrote, or visited her music teaching studio to clean, return phone calls and get the place looking the best she could. There were days she found herself puttering around the yard, deadheading the yellow daisies and watching tiny hummingbirds sip from her feeder- camera in hand waiting for a great shot. She went food shopping, which she found incredibly boring but easier than doing it after work. Her father lived about ten minutes away and Chelle often dropped by to say hello. Although she missed her mother, she found comfort in being with her dad in the town and the house she grew up in.

At almost 70 years young, Dennis's desire to race resurfaced to the point of obsession and he was charging ahead, full throttle, toward earning enough points for a chance to compete in the next national event. That meant making the 2 hour trip to New Hampshire on Wednesdays for "Test and Tune", his favorite day to race. He sometimes went on Saturdays to make some additional passes, but he couldn't get as many in because there were so many classes and cars running. That's why he preferred Wednesdays. Nobody got in his way. He didn't make Test and Tune this week because his back pain was through the roof. That said a lot because nothing short of crippling pain would ever prevent him from living his dream- winning.

She listened to the distinguishable purr of the diesel engine in the driveway- a sound that had become familiar to her since Dennis brought the truck home from Texas to Massachusetts earlier that year. The ride was hell. He was sick with some sort of bug and did most of the driving. His best friend was with him, but couldn't see well enough at night to drive. So again, despite the odds, Dennis drove the twenty-one hours home to Massachusetts, unable to even eat because his stomach was such a mess.

His will amazed Chelle.

The truck was huge, tall, shiny and black- larger than any "pick up" truck she'd ever seen. It was a monster, more than capable of hauling just a racecar trailer. It could certainly handle a larger one.

This time, Dennis was taking someone with him to the track- a nice, young guy named Ed who was really into racing and also a mechanic. To Dennis, it was the best of both worlds. Chelle felt better knowing Dennis wouldn't be going it alone...again. She didn't know how much more his back could take. Ed seemed to be a great kid, somewhere in his twenties she guessed, with a passion for cars, racing and speed. Dennis would be a fantastic mentor for him, too. Back in his younger days he pulled wrenches for a living and was known as one of the best mechanics around. Although he'd long since sold his garage, he still worked on his own cars and just about anything else that required fixing.

Nothing, not even a back filled with cortisone injections, would stop Dennis from reaching for his goals. Nobody, either.

As the truck pulled out of the driveway at 7:03 am, Chelle watched it move slowly around the bend in front of their house. As it pulled out of sight, she asked God to keep them both safe.

Ellen DuBois is the author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery and Host of MiscarriageHelp.com. She's been published by Blue Mountain Arts, and is a contributing author to several books including: Soul Matters for Teens, Sisters, (Blue Mountain Arts gift book), Conquering Panic and Anxiety Disorders- Success Stories, Strategies and other Good News, Romancing the Soul, More God Allows U-Turns. Additionally, she's known as "Miss Ellen"- a piano teacher to students from 5 to tween and beyond-
and loves it.


#signsfromtheangels #amwriting #blogging #grief #missyoumom #angels #heaven

Back Pain? Relief for Women and Men With One Surpising Stretch!

by Ellen DuBois on 07/15/17

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What is the Best Age to Begin Piano Lessons?

by Ellen DuBois on 06/24/17



I've had many inquiries as to when a child can begin piano lessons. I want to give you my answer based on personal experience and what I've seen over the ten years I've been instructing piano to kids.

There will likely be different answers to this question, depending on the the piano teacher you're asking. As for me a child is typically ready to begin piano lessons by age 5 to 5 and 1/2.

Now, when I teach a five-year-old, I find they are ready to learn the basic concepts of music and of the keys, (high and low sounds and where they're found on a keyboard), note counting, finger numbers for playing songs, recognizing black key patterns of two and three keys, finding middle C and beginning to play songs on the black keys first, then the white. They also begin learning by finger number, and then by the note name and where it is on the keyboard. They are also introduced to the music staff, both bass and treble clef and finally the grand staff, (bass and treble together with the right and left hand playing/reading). Many times, I have to remind them which hand is right and/or left. (Different color highlighters on their music helps and wearing different color bracelets on each wrist helps, too.) Keeping their attention can be a bit of a challenge. Keep in mind, kids are all unique, just like us grown ups. My piano students all learn differently and at their own pace. They have good days and not-so-good days. I gladly adjust and adapt to my student's individual needs. In short, a child who is in kindergarten can certainly start learning how to play the piano, it's just flows better once they're able to read.

What's the big deal about reading and music lessons? A big, and I mean BIG change happens once a child learns to read. Even if it's somewhat limited, I've seen the way my students process learning change...as if a light switch has been turned on. It's magical! When a student learns to read, they actively participate in reading out of their music lesson books, most of which have fun stories and cartoon characters that go along with each piece. Reading reinforces what my students are learning, especially when they read what's in their music book aloud. They have fun doing this and I love when that "light bulb" moment happens! A deeper understanding of the principles of music begins to take shape. I've found a new level of excitement and understanding in my students about reading music and playing the piano when they can read. That's typically around the age of 6 and in most cases, first grade.

The difference: Teaching a child who is not yet reading is much more visual. I tend to demonstrate more on the keyboard and off of it. I sometimes turn to things like musical flashcards & games when I need to change it up to keep my student's attention. I also use their music theory books, having them fill in note counts, letters, etc. They enjoy tapping out rhythms, singing, naming the notes, going over finger numbers, I love developing fun ways to enrich their experience while teaching music.

When a piano student knows how to read, I often have them read what's in the lesson book out loud . They love this and I'm right by their side to help them with any words they don't know yet. As a matter of fact, many of my young students read ahead in their books so when we turn the page, they surprise me with what they've already read! I always show them how excited I am about this and their ambition to push forward both amazes and inspires me!

Summing it up: Your child is old enough to begin piano lessons by the age of 5-5 1/2. If they can read, learning is accelerated because they have a better understanding of what's being taught in their lesson book.


Ellen DuBois is the author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery and Host of MiscarriageHelp.com. She's been published by Blue Mountain Arts, and is a contributing author to several books including: Soul Matters for Teens, Sisters, (Blue Mountain Arts gift book), Conquering Panic and Anxiety Disorders- Success Stories, Strategies and other Good News, Romancing the Soul, More God Allows U-Turns. Additionally, she's known as "Miss Ellen"- a piano teacher to students from 5 to tween and beyond-
and loves it.


Signs From the Angels In A Card From Ma

by Ellen DuBois on 06/22/17



This morning I was taking some better pictures of the necklace I hand stamped with "Mom", 1937-2015, for my Etsy listing. Although the necklace is for me, I have it in my Etsy shop as an example of what I can make for others. I moved on to cleaning out my office because it's being painted on Monday. I found a couple of things still under the bed. I reached into a bag filled with papers and cards. The very first thing I pulled out was this card. The moment I saw the very familiar writing on the envelope, I felt butterflies in my stomach. I held the card close to my heart before opening it. As I read it, the tears fell. Part grief, part gratitude. What else can I say? It was such a clear sign she is near, as are the angels.

Ellen DuBois is the author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery and Host of MiscarriageHelp.com. She's been published by Blue Mountain Arts, and is a contributing author to several books including: Soul Matters for Teens, Sisters, (Blue Mountain Arts gift book), Conquering Panic and Anxiety Disorders- Success Stories, Strategies and other Good News, Romancing the Soul, More God Allows U-Turns. Additionally, she's known as "Miss Ellen"- a piano teacher to students from 5 to tween and beyond-
and loves it.


#signsfromtheangels #amwriting #blogging #grief #missyoumom #angels #heaven

Fairy Lights and Flowers

by Ellen DuBois on 06/21/17



Fairy lights and flowers. I was tired of seeing my flower boxes empty. So, even though it's been a long day, I'm glad I stopped to pick up some flowers on my way home. I could add more, but in a way I love the simplicity of it.

Ellen DuBois is the author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery and Host of MiscarriageHelp.com. She's been published by Blue Mountain Arts, and is a contributing author to several books including: Soul Matters for Teens, Sisters, (Blue Mountain Arts gift book), Conquering Panic and Anxiety Disorders- Success Stories, Strategies and other Good News, Romancing the Soul, More God Allows U-Turns. Additionally, she's known as "Miss Ellen"- a piano teacher to students from 5 to tween and beyond-
and loves it.


#simplicity #amwriting #blogging #love

In The End, It Comes Down To...Love #grief #amwriting #blogging #love

by Ellen DuBois on 06/05/17



You know those moments when you come across a picture and it completely tears at your heart? Yeah. Just happened. But, faith gets you through it. Love pushes you forward, keeps you connected and dries the tears. The belief in a life so beautiful after this one cushions the ache of missing someone so much it physically hurts. Finally, the importance of treasuring every moment you have with your family- every, single one, is fully awakened. Do it for you. Do it for God. Do it because you may regret it if you don't. I loved my mother so much and miss her equally as much. Thank God she knew how much she was loved by my whole family. And we knew she loved us. In the end, it all comes down to... LOVE.

Ellen DuBois is the author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery and Host of MiscarriageHelp.com. She's been published by Blue Mountain Arts, and is a contributing author to several books including: Soul Matters for Teens, Sisters, (Blue Mountain Arts gift book), Conquering Panic and Anxiety Disorders- Success Stories, Strategies and other Good News, Romancing the Soul, More God Allows U-Turns. Additionally, she's known as "Miss Ellen"- a piano teacher to students from 5 to tween and beyond-
and loves it.


#grief #amwriting #blogging #love

Senseless Killings by Monsters has GOT to Stop. Attack at Ariana Grande Concert in UK

by Ellen DuBois on 05/22/17

My condolences, thoughts and prayers to those hurt and killed in England at the Manchester Arena. 19 souls were lost. 50 are hurt. Many children were there with their families. Dear God. This act of what is believed to be cold blooded terrorism happened at an Ariana Grande concert in the UK. I pray for all those affected by this horrible attack. I pray for the whole world. These senseless killings by monsters has GOT to stop. Dear God help us. May we gather our strength and light from you to overpower the evil of terrorism.

Ellen M. DuBois

Ellen DuBois is the author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery and Host of MiscarriageHelp.com. She's also been published with Blue Mountain Arts, and is a contributing author to several books including: Soul Matters for Teens, Sisters, (Blue Mountain Arts gift book), Conquering Panic and Anxiety Disorders- Success Stories, Strategies and other Good News, Romancing the Soul, More God Allows U-Turns. Additionally, She's also known as "Miss Ellen"- a piano teacher to students from 5 to tween and beyond.

Mother's Day: A Note To all those Dads Out There Who Are Widowers

by Ellen DuBois on 05/14/17



Just a note.

To all those Dads out there who are widowers: I am so sorry for your loss. I know Mother's Day wasn't easy for you, either. I was with my dad today and he's got three daughters who love him very much. I watched him play the same organ in the same church his wife played in for over 25 years because it means so much to him that he continue carrying the torch...for her. I saw his fingers touch the same keys his wife, his best friend for over 54 years did.

My mother was his greatest love, the mother of his children and partner on this journey called life.

He sees us missing our mother and we see him missing his wife. We all try to be strong for each other. We treasure our memories of her and take comfort in every second we are blessed to still have each other on this earth.

We do the best we can.

I know my father felt both gratitude and heartache on this Mother's Day. So, to all fathers out there who are missing the special woman you loved and the one your children called "Mom", my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Ellen DuBois

Ellen DuBois is the author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery and Host of MiscarriageHelp.com. She's been published by Blue Mountain Arts, and is a contributing author to several books including: Soul Matters for Teens, Sisters, (Blue Mountain Arts gift book), Conquering Panic and Anxiety Disorders- Success Stories, Strategies and other Good News, Romancing the Soul, More God Allows U-Turns. Additionally, she's known as "Miss Ellen"- a piano teacher to students from 5 to tween and beyond-
and loves it.

#bereavedmothersday Bereaved Mothers, You are Remembered

by Ellen DuBois on 05/07/17



#bereavedmothersday from my heart to yours. Love and God Bless you, Ellen

Ellen DuBois is the host of Miscarriagehelp.com, a miscarriage survivor, and author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. If you or someone you love has suffered a miscarriage, please know you're not alone. Connect with people who understand.

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Answered Prayers: Opening My Own Music Studio Amidst The Chaos

by Ellen DuBois on 02/10/17


Pictured above: A tour of my new music studio.

At the beginning of December, 2016, I found out the music studio where I taught piano was closing on December 23rd. I felt a myriad of emotions: surprised, not-so-surprised, numb and a sense of floundering. What was I going to do?

Those thoughts were soon replaced by ones of even deeper concern on December 17th, when my father took a fall and ended up in the hospital.

Oh, and Christmas was coming.

Before my father's fall and subsequent hip and femur replacement, I knew I had to come up with a plan, or a place, to continue teaching. There was the option of going to another studio, but I knew it wasn't right for me. If I had to teach out of my home, at least temporarily, I would. However, it would be difficult with the dog barking through each lesson. I thought about teaching on the road, like my mother did years ago, but it didn't seem practical. How could I fit all my students in with the added commute?

Fast forward. I finished out my teaching days at the music studio, spent a great deal of time at the hospital with my father (from the 17th on), wrapped up my Christmas shopping, had feelers out there for a new and affordable place and prayed, prayed, prayed. I honestly didn't know how I'd find and set up a teaching studio by the time Christmas vacation was over for my students. I only knew I had to. I promised them and myself there wouldn't be a gap between their vacation ending and piano lessons resuming.

My fiance's very good friend, (a great guy), knew someone who would provide me the space. And...I could afford it. Dear God, was this real? It felt like a miracle. I believe it was. Divine intervention, if you will.

In a two week time frame my fiance, his friend, another friend and my nephew all transformed what was a space filled with old equipment, office furniture, papers, dust, dirt, you name it, into the music studio I have today. Of course I helped, too. But the heavy duty "stuff" wasn't done by me. The credit goes to them and most importantly, to God. He answered my prayers in a most wonderful, unexpected way. I have more space than I ever thought possible and with that comes so much possibility!

So, thank you to God, my fiance, his friend Kenny, Bob, my nephew Lou. Thanks to the wonderful man who provided the space and to his beautiful wife. Thanks to the people who have the space on the second floor for being so kind, helpful and welcoming. Wow. Just thinking about it fills me up.

On January 3, 2017, two years to the day since my mother's passing, I taught my first students in my new location. I had what I needed: a space, a piano, my students and me. It was important to teach on the anniversary of my mother's passing because she was such an incredible teacher herself, at the same music studio. I know she would have wanted me to continue on. With her regular nudging from Heaven, I found the will, the drive and the strength to get it done. When my father is ready, there is a piano and a room waiting for him to teach in.

So, when life seems overwhelming, hold on to your faith and your vision. There were times I felt so lost and worried. But, it all worked out and now I see so many opportunities for growth. I envision many more kids taking music lessons and having more teachers available to provide them. I want to reach out and help children who want lessons but may not be able to afford them to get them. There's so much I want to do and will do, in time.

Does it mean working towards making it happen? Yes. Does it mean people will come into my life that I never expected to and help make some dreams come true? Yes. Thank God for that and I plan on being that unexpected person for someone else who needs a helping hand. It all comes full circle. Prayers get answered.

 


Ellen DuBois: I'm the author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery and Host of MiscarriageHelp.com. I've also been published with Blue Mountain Arts, and am a contributing author to several books including: Soul Matters for Teens, Sisters, (Blue Mountain Arts gift book), Conquering Panic and Anxiety Disorders- Success Stories, Strategies and other Good News, Romancing the Soul, More God Allows U-Turns. Additionally, I'm also known as "Miss Ellen"- a piano teacher to students from 5 to tween and beyond-
I love it!

 

 

What If, What Could Have Been, What Was.

by Ellen DuBois on 12/17/16



Some of you may be struggling right now. I want you to know I'm thinking of you and you're not alone. While this time of year can be so joyful, it can also be equally painful as we reflect on "what if", "what could have been" and "what was". I've been there and believe me, I'm still there sometimes. I remember, so clearly, all the times I wondered, "What would this Christmas be like if my baby were here?" It hurt so much. I cried so much and I tried so much. Over time, it got easier. As I grew into painfully accepting life without my baby in it, I was able to experience more joy. I never forgot my little one and never will. But, the joys I began to feel again helped balance the scales. I was able to live in the moment more, instead of in the world of "what if", "what could have been" and "what was". I'll never forget how tough it was and even today, twenty something years later, I think of my sweet, little one in heaven and I miss him. There are other losses that cut very deep, too. Christmas without my mother is not the same and the pain is still very raw - that same raw pain you feel after you lose anyone you love. So, try to go easy on yourself. Know that you'll heal over time, in your own way and at your own pace. You will probably feel a wide spectrum of emotions and that is okay. There's no right or wrong. You feel what you do and I pray you find the comfort, support and strength you need. I'll be thinking of all of you this Christmas and holiday season and holding you close to my heart. Love and light to you,
Ellen

 


Ellen DuBois: I'm the author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery and Host of MiscarriageHelp.com. I've also been published with Blue Mountain Arts, and am a contributing author to several books including: Soul Matters for Teens, Sisters, (Blue Mountain Arts gift book), Conquering Panic and Anxiety Disorders- Success Stories, Strategies and other Good News, Romancing the Soul, More God Allows U-Turns. Additionally, I'm also known as "Miss Ellen"- a piano teacher to students from 5 to tween and beyond-
I love it!

Merry Christmas In Heaven. #miscarriage #grief #support

by Ellen DuBois on 12/13/16



To all those missing their babies and other loved ones who are in Heaven, my heart goes out to you. This time of year can be tough. You're "supposed" to be happy, but may find yourself struggling with grief, sadness and perhaps feeling ovewhelmed. There are so many emotions, from joy to great sadness. I know the feeling and want you to know you're not alone. Hang in there, and I'm keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.

I love you and miss you more than you know. Christmas is coming- the streets seem to glow. I hear carolers singing and see lights shining bright. It should make me warm on this cold winter night. But, I miss you my dear one. I can't help but cry. I need to slow down and sit for a while. When I close my eyes, it feels like you're here. Was that you or an angel, who just dried my tears? Your spirit warms me in the cold, winter air. I know you're beside me, even though you're not "here".- Ellen M. DuBois

Love and comfort to you,

Ellen


Ellen DuBois: I'm the author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery and Host of MiscarriageHelp.com. I've also been published with Blue Mountain Arts, and am a contributing author to several books including: Soul Matters for Teens, Sisters, (Blue Mountain Arts gift book), Conquering Panic and Anxiety Disorders- Success Stories, Strategies and other Good News, Romancing the Soul, More God Allows U-Turns. Additionally, I'm also known as "Miss Ellen"- a piano teacher to students from 5 to tween and beyond-
I love it!

Sometimes, it's hard to feel "Merry"

by Ellen DuBois on 12/04/16



 

I get it. I remember how tough the Christmas following my miscarriage was. All I could think about was the baby I lost. I was consumed with thoughts like:

 It's hard to feel merry. It feels like the world is celebrating and I'm stuck on pause.

This should be our first Christmas together.

How can I feel happy when inside I'm so sad?

Nothing feels right. The whole world feels different.

When will I feel like me again?

I feel like I'm going to lose it.

How can I be around all these people when inside I feel like I'm screaming?

Doesn't anyone understand that I'm grieving?

I know what it's like and I can tell you that although you will never forget your baby, things will get easier for you in time. If your wounds are very raw right now, please know that your best is good enough. Just take everything one day at a time and if you need to "step away", you can.

Pray for strength. Pray for comfort. Ask the angels to surround you this Christmas and give you some peace. Take some deep breaths. What others may think about your loss really doesn't matter. You have every right to feel and in time you will heal.

Christmas was tough for me for a long time. Even now, when my baby would have been a 25 year old, I think of him, particularly on Christmas. I have an ornament hanging on the tree with his name on it. No, I will never forget my baby and I certainly don't expect you will. I hope you find some comfort in feeling your little one's spirit near you.

On the flip side, if you do find yourself smiling, or a feeling of peace and happiness surfaces, please allow yourself to feel that, too. It's a gift and even while you're grieving, you can still feel joy. As Dr. Wayne Dyer once said, "You can grieve and live at the same time." (That has stuck with me, especially since the loss of my mother.)

"Sometimes it's hard to feel merry. It feels like the world is celebrating and I'm stuck on pause. That's what grief does."- Ellen M. DuBois

My heart goes out to all who are grieving this Christmas and holiday season. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Love and comfort to you,

Ellen


Ellen DuBois: I'm the author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery and Host of MiscarriageHelp.com. I've also been published with Blue Mountain Arts, and am a contributing author to several books including: Soul Matters for Teens, Sisters, (Blue Mountain Arts gift book), Conquering Panic and Anxiety Disorders- Success Stories, Strategies and other Good News, Romancing the Soul, More God Allows U-Turns. Additionally, I'm also known as "Miss Ellen"- a piano teacher to students from 5 to tween and beyond-
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by Ellen DuBois on 12/03/16



Well, we've all got different interests and what floats your boat may be different from what floats mine. In the publications I curate so far, (I'll be adding more), the points of interest are:


1. Writing, poetry, publishing, blogging and more about the world of writers. (The Daily Grind With A Spash of Soul)

2. Positive thinking, relaxation, spirituality, mindfullness and more ways to improve your life and the lives of others. (The Positive Light)

3. The presidential election, President Elect Trump, what's happening in the world of politics nationally and internationally. (The Trump 2016 Daily)

4. Miscarriage news, help, support, stories, experiences, grief, healing, fertility and more. (The Miscarriage Help Daily)

5. Plus size fashion, clothing lines, modeling plus size clothing, the latest plus size fashion trends and more. (Plus Sizes 4 Her Daily)

6. Women's fashion, clothing, accessories, fashion trends, and more. (Women's Clothing Closet Daily)

7. Handmade jewelry, clothing, accessories, furniture- you name it. Most of the stories, artisans and items can be found on etsy. (The Treasure Trove)

I hope you find something that sparks your interest and subscribe to one or more of the publications below. Have a great day! Thanks for stopping by,
Ellen

The Daily Grind With A Spash of Soul. Writing, Coffee, Poetry, Soul Packed with articles about #writing, writers, #writers markets, blogs, #bloggers, the arts and so much more! Subscribe for free.

The Positive Light #Positive #GoodNews #MindBodySpirit #Joy #Peace #Faith #SelfAcceptance The Positive Light- Some Good News Creating Change For the Better. Subscribe for free.

The Trump 2016 Daily #Breaking news, headlines, stories and commentary about #DonaldJTrump, #presidentelectTrump #PresidentTrump. Read all about it here and keep informed. The Trump 2016 Daily will keep you in the know about our #45thpresident, Donald J. Trump. #MakeAmericaGreatAgain Subscribe for free.

The Miscarriage Help Daily Miscarriage Support- Because Your Loss Matters.Miscarriage is a very real loss. Those who have lived it know. Yet, even today, miscarriage is often dismissed by many. Too often women are told to "get over it" and "move on". This does nothing to help support a woman who is grieving the loss of her baby and all the plans, hopes and dreams she had for her child. Additionally, fathers and siblings may need support, too. Subscribe for free.


Plus Sizes 4 Her Daily You'll find the latest news and information on #plussize clothing, sales, trends and more delivered free to your inbox. We feature #style & #fashion news and information that will keep you up to date on everything you want to know about plus size fashions. Subscribe for free.

Women's Clothing Closet Daily Women's #Clothing, #Fashion, #Style, News, Tips Looking for fashion tips, updates and inspiration? From petite to #plussize fashions, we've got you covered. Create a style as unique as you are. Subscribe for free.


The Treasure Trove If you're looking for a one of a kind, quality, hand made gifts, #jewelry, #fashion, #art, bath and body, home and garden and more, you'll find what you're looking for in The Treasure Trove. Most artisans sell their items on #Etsy. Updated daily. Enjoy reading! I'm confident you'll find something special in each issue. Subscribe for free.

I hope you find something that peaks your interest(s) in one or more of my online publiscations. Best of all, they're free! Sincerely, Ellen




Ellen DuBois: I'm the author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery and Host of MiscarriageHelp.com. I've also been published with Blue Mountain Arts, and am a contributing author to several books including: Soul Matters for Teens, Sisters, (Blue Mountain Arts gift book), Conquering Panic and Anxiety Disorders- Success Stories, Strategies and other Good News, Romancing the Soul, More God Allows U-Turns. Additionally, I'm also known as "Miss Ellen"- a piano teacher to students from 5 to tween and beyond-
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Thanksgiving Blessings

by Ellen DuBois on 11/24/16



I read this quote by Charles Dickens and wanted to share it with you. It seems perfect on this Thanksgiving day.

 

Reflect on your present blessings, of which every man has many; not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some.- Charles Dickens

 

 

Wishing you and yours many blessings and my thoughts and prayers go out to all who are hurting in any way.

God Bless and Happy Thanksgiving!

Ellen

Let's Do This!

by Ellen DuBois on 11/17/16

I know a lot of you are looking for ways to make some extra money from home. Take a look at Izea. It doesn't cost me any money, and I'm enjoying spreading the word about products from a variety of companies who just want me to get their message out- while paying me to do it! Wishing you the best. Ellen.


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Rock The Vote!

by Ellen DuBois on 11/08/16



Wishing everyone a good day. I hope you are able to get out and Rock the Vote! On a personal note, I have always believed in an individual's right to vote for the candidate of their choice. Who a person votes for never has, nor will it ever, alter or change my feelings about them. I deeply respect everyone's right to vote for who they want and am eternally grateful for the right do to so. God Speed to all of you, God Bless the USA and...Rock the Vote!

 


Ellen DuBois: is the author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery and Host of MiscarriageHelp.com. She's been published with Blue Mountain Arts, and is a contributing author to several books including: Soul Matters for Teens, Sisters, (Blue Mountain Arts gift book), Conquering Panic and Anxiety Disorders- Success Stories, Strategies and other Good News, Romancing the Soul, More God Allows U-Turns. Additionally, she's known as "Miss Ellen"- a piano teacher to students from 5 to tween and beyond. She blogs about things that matter to her...or whatever inspires her.

Tonight's #Presidential #Debate: Stop With The Mud and Start With the Answers

by Ellen DuBois on 10/19/16



 

I've been pretty wrapped up in this election. I've watched FOX news, (and a few other stations), read countless political newsletters, have been in the trenches, (to a limited degree at political headquarters in my state), and have seen more political ads than I can count. I've watched the last two debates with my dog snuggled up between my fiance and I. Sometimes, I've wanted to jump ship, turn off the TV or at least change the channel, (especially now that Jane the Virgin is back on and I love Designated Survivor). But, I didn't. I watched the debates because to me, it's too important not to.

I don't typically write about politics because it's not usually my thing. However, I write about what's on my mind and right now, for better or worse, it's the presidential race. I can't help it because there's too much at stake. I love and respect this great country.

The campaign: It's heated. It's convoluded. It's muddy. For far too many Americans it's unclear.

Tonight's the third and final debate. How appropriate it's being held in Vegas. I feel like it's a Pay Per View event, but one with a lot more at stake than a championship belt.

It's been a down and dirty race, (that's an understatement). Trump and Clinton have been mudslinging for so long I'm afraid there are millions of people who don't know where either candidate stands on the issues. Those who are decided know who they're voting for. Those who are undecided don't know who to vote for and that's not only sad, it's scary. There's too much dirt in their eyes from all the mudslinging to see, to know, to feel confident in either presidential candidate. 

"Mudslinging is the act of making hateful statements or comments about someone, usually a political opponent. An example of mudslinging is what opposing politicians say about each other in smear campaigns."- Source "- Your Dictionary

This isn't about who I'm for. I already know and still find myself wiping dirt from my eyes and wanting to grab some earplugs. If I had both candidates in front of me right now I'd say:  Stop With The Mud and Start With the Answers. (My new slogan.) If you want people's vote, get out there and earn it. Tonight's your night! Talk about what matters, for God's sake. Talk about the issues. Better yet, give the American people your solutions to the problems plaguing this country. Tell people why they'd be better off with you as their president. Why should you be at the helm? What will you do to create jobs? How will you make this country a safer place? What's going to happen to social security? Speaking of that, what about this nineteen trillion dollar debt that keeps creeping up and up? What about healthcare? Will our veterans be taken better care of and not left floundering in a system where they're often overlooked? What will you do to protect our citizens and our police officers? What will you do as president to ensure that every child in the USA gets the best education possible? Because they're such important issues, I think these two bear repeating: What will you do to create jobs so people can, well, survive? How will you make this country safe again? Don't just say you'll do it, tell us how. Please!

These are only some of the questions people need and deserve answers to. We the people are tired of all the sex talk, of who did what to whom and when. We get it. We know. We don't like it. If what you're slinging back and forth in front of millions of people who need answers has nothing to do with your ability to run this country, please stop talking about it! (Caveat: If it does affect your ability to run this country, have at it.) Give your potential voters what they need: Answers.

We the people live in the greatest country on earth and many are afraid. We feel like the sand is shifting under our feet because there aren't enough jobs and there are acts of terrorism being conducted by evil people on our own soil and around the globe . We see riots, looting and incomprehensible unrest on TV and gasp in horror and disbelief. We the people are not just struggling to make ends meet, many don't know where the ends will come from.

America is crying out for help. When they look to either candidate for answers, for leadership, for a feeling of confidence when saying "this is my choice for president", they are left with eyes filled with mud and still, no answers.

Dear candidates, please, for the love of God and for this country, give people the answers they need at tonight's debate. Stop With The Mud and Start With the Answers.

Whatever's left in the pile of dirt that needs to be sorted out will be.

Stop With The Mud and Start With the Answers. That will earn you respect and votes. The American people deserve nothing less.

 


Ellen DuBois: is the author of I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery and Host of MiscarriageHelp.com. She's been published with Blue Mountain Arts, and is a contributing author to several books including: Soul Matters for Teens, Sisters, (Blue Mountain Arts gift book), Conquering Panic and Anxiety Disorders- Success Stories, Strategies and other Good News, Romancing the Soul, More God Allows U-Turns. Additionally, she's known as "Miss Ellen"- a piano teacher to students from 5 to tween and beyond. She blogs about things that matter to her...or whatever inspires her.



This is a wonderful CD. It is by Al and Marlane DuBois, (my parents). If you love piano music, both original pieces and those you already know and love, you will enjoy "It's About Piano, It's About Time! . Listen to the samples. This makes a great gift for anyone who loves quality, beautiful piano music. Perfect for adding ambiance to dinner parties and more. Some of the pieces are perfect for meditation, too.






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